Why Long Term Marriages Last
In talking with couples who have been married for many years, these aspects of marriage (not listed in any type of priority) are listed as necessary for a long lasting marriage.
- Continue to build intimacy -- both sexually and emotionally -- throughout your marriage.
- Create passion for life and for one another.
- Forgive one another. Don't hang on to past baggage and past hurts. Be willing to let go and to move forward with your lives.
- Continue to be committed to each other and celebrate your sense of commitment.
- Like one another and be friends with each other.
- Have fun together, laugh together, and use humor in healthy ways.
- Comfort, encourage, and affirm one another.
- Be able to stand on your own feet as a couple and not be dependent either financially or emotionally on either of your parents.
- Respect one another's need for privacy and space.
- Parent together.
- Deal with a crisis and adversity together.
- Fight fair.
- Accept your differences and don't try to change your spouse.
- Keep romance alive in your marriage.
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Thanks for your tips on how to have a lasting marriage. Today divorce has become so common place, so it's nice to see someone else who is trying to help couples to stay together and have a lasting, loving relationship.
Thanks for your tips on how to have a lasting marriage. Today divorce has become so common place, so it's nice to see someone else who is trying to help couples to stay together and have a lasting, loving relationship.
Thank you KayEm17 Yes in this day it really amazes me how little importance some people put into a lasting relationship. It seems like others are so quick now a days to throw away what is meant to last a lifetime. I was married 20 years and have to admit I fall into one of the divorce statistics. but we did try everything before deciding to divorce, counseling etc. Ours was a little different since my wife was 20 years older than I when we married. We just grew apart. We are still friends. I do put a large importance on a great relationship and striving as hard as possible to make it work. I also beleive in counseling if you need to seek external help in your relationship, and only after trying everything should you make that final choice. I believe in the one on one long term relationship structure, and beleive we were meant to live that way. As a single Senior (52 years old) I beleive one more lasting long term relationship is all that many Seniors need to complete their last journey for the remainder of this part of our life. I beleive as a single senior what we have learned in our previous relationships can help us in our future relationship and that in some ways it makes it harder because I find in our 50's we are meeting people that have had a whole life of doing things one way, and are involved in many external other family and personal relationships and time commitments that it can be a struggle to start a new relationship. But still worth the alternative and can work if we are patient and understanding and don't give up. thank you for your nice comment.
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